"You can choose courage or you can choose comfort. You cannot have both" - Brene Brown
And it is ok to choose comfort.
This is my first instinct when I read this quote. Not because I don't feel that choosing courage is the wrong choice, but because it is implied that one should choose courage.
Ideally, we would all choose courage and lead perfect lives.
"Life is unfair" - such a clichè and so very true.
As true as the facts that the world is imperfect, the destiny is not in our control, and that life is uncertain.
"You get what anybody gets - you get a lifetime" - Neil Gaiman
I think my instinctive reaction of 'it is ok to choose comfort' comes from my being a mother. I have spent years counseling my kids that at times, you choose what is right for you.
Many a time I feel happier waiting rather than taking any immediate action.
And waiting takes a lot of courage.
So, yes make the choice between courage and comfort. Choose courage even.
But decide for yourself what is courageous.
Do not let the world decide it for you.
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference."
Choosing serenity over courage is not always the courageous choice. At times, it is the wise choice.
And being wise comes from not having choices.
One of the quotes about courage that Brene Brown mentions as her own favorite is by Oprah Winfrey:
"You get in this life what you have the courage to ask for"
Choose for yourself. Do not judge others.
What you perceive as ‘comfort’ may have been the courageous choice for them.