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Introvert or Ambivert?

I remember teaching the words 'introvert' and 'extrovert' in a class, discussing these two, and before asking everyone to label themselves, teaching another word - 'ambivert'. I told the class that I had felt relieved when I first learnt this third word. Thanks to it, I didn't have to label myself an introvert.

After all, I had my 'not introvert' moments. They are becoming far and few between though. I think time makes you realise that certain things are just too much work and not worth the effort.

Teaching that class made me express my thoughts on these words. Thoughts I had hardly every consciously thought, let alone shared aloud with anyone.

Then I read about World Introvert Day on Write Tribe. Read about the 21 signs of being an introvert. And started questioning my ambivert theory.

So, I obviously asked google how I should label myself. Took a quiz. And the result says...




Now, I am confused. Am I the I-word or the A-word?
Introvert: 84%. Ambiv…
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Look for a reason to smile #WriteBravely #LiveHappily

"In every job that must be done, there is an element of fun. You find the fun and - snap! - the job's a game!" - Mary Poppins



When Tom Sawyer got other boys to paint the fence for him, and made money out of it too, the secret was making the job fun. So, Mary Poppins certainly had that fact right.

From drinking milk to finishing the food, from cleaning the room to getting reading on time, from studying to helping in chores, I have many memories from my childhood, and then from my parenting days that corroborate Mary Poppins' shrewd words.

Do these words hold as true for the jobs that the grown-ups hold, is a point of contention now?
The important words to be noticed are 'must be done'. So, the message for each of us here is, if there is something in which you don't have a choice, look for the element of fun in it. There is bound to be something - the work itself, the ones you share it with, the reason that you are doing it - that would make you smile thro…

Choose to live life #WriteBravely #LiveBravely

"The past can hurt.  But the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it"  - Rafiki's wise words to Simba in The Lion King
You can either run from the past or learn from it. Or maybe just accept it, and move on.
There are things one has no control over.
In the afternoon today, while driving for lunch with my family, I had stopped my car just before the pedestrian crossing at the traffic light. Within a few seconds, other vehicles had passed mine to stop on the pedestrian crossing, or even farther up.  Nothing new there. I experience it all the time.
And then a banner with faces of politicians - one big, multiple small - printed on it fell on my car.
Things fall on cars - I read about a crane falling and killing the driver of a car waiting at the traffic light. One of the first things I heard this morning was about a midnight sprawl the night before that ended in the death of a 22-year-old.
That is what I thought of at that time. The uncertainty, that experience teache…

Who watches Bigg Boss?

Who watches Big Boss?

I ask this question because it seems like hardly anyone I know says that they watch this show that made it to the Top 10 list of the most-watched Hindi Entertainment shows. So, no one I know, besides a couple of close relatives, who don't hide this fact (and me), watched Bigg Boss 11.

An acquaintance of mine recently told me about a male friend of hers who is on a quest to find a girl to tie the matrimonial knot with. She went on to passionately rant about how exasperated he is. One of the reasons for his not liking a female is if she watches Bigg Boss.
Now that this season is over, I was imagining this guy getting married in the next couple of months, and getting the shock of his life when, a few months later, his wife would be watching Bigg Boss every single night.

This rant continued to haunt me. The looking down on anyone who watches a Hindi TV serial, or God forbid, Bigg Boss seems extremely snobbish.
The English TV shows are great, I agree (at least, the few…

The right and wrong of choices #WriteBravely

"You can choose courage or you can choose comfort. You cannot have both" - Brene Brown
And it is ok to choose comfort. 
This is my first instinct when I read this quote. Not because I don't feel that choosing courage is the wrong choice, but because it is implied that one should choose courage.
Ideally, we would all choose courage and lead perfect lives. 
"Life is unfair" - such a clichè and so very true. As true as the facts that the world is imperfect, the destiny is not in our control, and that life is uncertain. "You get what anybody gets - you get a lifetime" - Neil Gaiman
I think my instinctive reaction of 'it is ok to choose comfort' comes from my being a mother. I have spent years counseling my kids that at times, you choose what is right for you. 
Many a time I feel happier waiting rather than taking any immediate action. And waiting takes a lot of courage.
So, yes make the choice between courage and comfort. Choose courage even.  But decide for…

Disobedience #writetribeproblogger #writebravely

The basic thought of this post comes from something I read.  Was it a quote? Was it an article? Maybe an interview? I don't remember.  If you have read about this, and know the source, please tell me in the comments below. Thanks.

Disobedience in children is not always a problem.  When I discuss with other mothers about the fact that 'kids don't listen', 'they never agree to anything', etc., I often repeat 'it's good to say no'.
To survive in this cruel world, it is important to be able to say 'no', to be able to disagree, to stand one's own ground. The first place our children learn to do that is at home. With us, the poor, clueless parents.
If our children did everything we asked them to, if they never chose to stand up against us, imagine the spineless individuals they would grow up to be.
Parenting is about teaching the little monsters to balance between the (hopefully) many yeses and few nos, and to disagree without being rude. Parenting is …

Bated Breath - Flash Fiction

I don’t think I really understood the meaning of ‘Bated Breath’ before. Just as I had whispered into her ear ‘I love you’, her brother had cut into the dance. The look in his eye told me that he could sense the life-changing tension between his sister and me. I moved to the back of the room. Our eyes met across the room. She smiled. The brother looked around to see who she was smiling at, saw me, and scowled. I grinned.