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The right and wrong of choices #WriteBravely

"You can choose courage or you can choose comfort. You cannot have both" - Brene Brown

And it is ok to choose comfort. 

This is my first instinct when I read this quote. Not because I don't feel that choosing courage is the wrong choice, but because it is implied that one should choose courage.

Ideally, we would all choose courage and lead perfect lives. 

"Life is unfair" - such a clichè and so very true.
As true as the facts that the world is imperfect, the destiny is not in our control, and that life is uncertain.
"You get what anybody gets - you get a lifetime" - Neil Gaiman

I think my instinctive reaction of 'it is ok to choose comfort' comes from my being a mother. I have spent years counseling my kids that at times, you choose what is right for you. 

Many a time I feel happier waiting rather than taking any immediate action.
And waiting takes a lot of courage.

So, yes make the choice between courage and comfort. Choose courage even. 
But decide for yourself what is courageous.
Do not let the world decide it for you.

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference."

Choosing serenity over courage is not always the courageous choice. At times, it is the wise choice. 
And being wise comes from not having choices.

One of the quotes about courage that Brene Brown mentions as her own favorite is by Oprah Winfrey:
"You get in this life what you have the courage to ask for"

Choose for yourself. Do not judge others. 
What you perceive as ‘comfort’ may have been the courageous choice for them.

©Nimi Arora

Write Tribe

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  1. I love the way you interpreted it. Yes, Moms often sacrifice their comfort and it's important that they make time for themselves.

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  2. I came here advocating courage but I admit you have an extremely valid point. Courage blindly is not an answer to everything. Sometimes we need to see the larger picture and be ready to choose our own comfort as well.

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  3. I enjoyed this. You're right. Sometimes it is necessary, even right, to choose comfort over courage. Go for Google - #6 in ProBlogger Challenge

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  4. You are right. Sometimes it's okay to choose comfort over courage. Choosing what make us happy and strong is also courage.

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  5. I say you can have both .You just have to be courageous enough to believe and do what it takes.Who said courage had to be uncomfortable.

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  6. very true it is not necessary always to choose courage. I liked the last two lines that said 'we perceive' how true we perceive others as we see and not as they are. -Sudha

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